[tlhIngan Hol] same sex marriage

[Elizabeth Faber]

The norms of this group include certain shared understandings, such as the
idea that all known Klingon has been relayed to us from Maltz via Marc
Okrand, or that Captain Krankor speaks no English and Rich Yampell speaks
no Klingon.  We have a lot of fun living within these shared
understandings.  Lieven relayed to us Maltz's statement about Klingon
culture and language usage.  That is how the statement should be viewed
according to the norms of this group.  Please keep within their spirit.

-be''etlh

On Thu, Jul 13, 2017 at 5:38 PM, Rebecca Krause <
rebecca.krause.1985 at gmail.com> wrote:

> thanks for the lesson in heteronormativity Maltz/Marc but we didn't need
> you to explain it to us
>
> On Thu, Jul 13, 2017 at 5:35 PM, Rebecca Krause <
> rebecca.krause.1985 at gmail.com> wrote:
>
>> 2017
>>
>> On Thu, Jul 13, 2017 at 4:07 PM, Lieven <levinius at gmx.de> wrote:
>>
>>> Last month, the German government has decided to allow the same sex
>>> marriage. This means that a man can marry a man, and a woman can marry a
>>> woman. We have the Klingon verbs {Saw} for the man and {nay} for what the
>>> wife does. I wanted to twitter about that in Klingon, and wondered if
>>> {Sawchuq} would make sense. I contacted Marc Okrand, who talked to Maltz
>>> about that, and instead of just saying "yes", Maltz provided some more
>>> interesting details, including the verb {tlhogh}.
>>>
>>> The entire message is archived here:
>>> http://www.qephom.de/e/message_from_maltz_170713.html
>>>
>>> ---begin---
>>>
>>> Lieven –
>>>
>>> I had a talk with Maltz about this, and he had more to say about it than
>>> I would have guessed!
>>>
>>> First of all, he said that {Sawchuq} and {naychuq} are perfectly good
>>> words and would be understood to refer to same-sex marriage.
>>>
>>> But he went on...
>>>
>>> Though {Saw} and {nay} are defined in terms of male/female and when used
>>> in this way everything is fine, the idea is not simply that when men get
>>> married they do something that's somehow different from what women do when
>>> they get married. The concept is more of a yin-yang thing. That is, there
>>> are two people joining together in marriage who are not the same as each
>>> other. They complement each other, complete each other – all that kind of
>>> stuff people say at weddings. It all goes back to the relationship Kahless
>>> and Lukara had. So one of the people getting married brings one set of
>>> values, strengths, abilities, etc., to the marriage, and the other brings
>>> another (complementary, overlapping, enhancing) set. And vice versa. That's
>>> why, when they get married, they're not said to do the same thing.
>>>
>>> Now, you may say, if using two words for "marry" is because there are
>>> two different but complementary partners, shouldn't the word for "marry"
>>> when both people getting married are the same gender also be two different
>>> words? If so, {Sawchuq} and {naychuq} don't accomplish that.
>>>
>>> And, if you said all of that, you would be right. But the association of
>>> {Saw} with "husband" and {nay} with "wife" has been around for so long, the
>>> "complementariness" notion has been lost for many people. That's why
>>> {Sawchuq} and {naychuq} are easily understandable when used for same-sex
>>> marriage.
>>>
>>> In addition, though, at least in some places, people are dealing with
>>> gender in a way that goes beyond simple "male" and "female." So if one of
>>> the people getting married doesn't identify as either "male" or "female" –
>>> or if both don't - then what do you do? Theoretically, both use {nay} or
>>> both use {Saw} or one uses {nay} and the other uses {Saw}, but how to
>>> choose and which is which? This is particularly tricky because these two
>>> words are tangled up with "female" and "male," exactly what those
>>> identifying as neither are wanting to not express.
>>>
>>> Maltz says that, more and more, he's hearing an older word, {tlhogh}. (I
>>> don't know how he's hearing this – my basement isn't really equipped for
>>> extraterrestrial communication – but I certainly believe him.) The noun
>>> {tlhogh} is quite common. It means "marriage," and it can be used for
>>> anybody marrying anybody. The verb {tlhogh}, however, was long considered
>>> quaint or archaic. But it's being used with increased frequency. It means
>>> "marry" and, like its noun counterpart, it can be used by both partners
>>> regardless of sex/gender, so it's used for male-male marriages,
>>> female-female marriages, and everything else. Use of this word lacks the
>>> yin-yang connotation of {Saw} and {nay}, but it's well suited for
>>> expressing what the folks getting married are up to. Depending on what you
>>> want to say, both {tlhogh} and {tlhoghchuq} are heard: {B tlhogh A} "A
>>> marries B"; {tlhoghchuq A B je} "A and B marry each other." But some
>>> Klingons also say {Sawchuq} and {naychuq}. The choice seems to be whatever
>>> the folks getting married prefer.
>>>
>>> I hope this helps.
>>>
>>> See you soon.
>>>
>>>  – Marc
>>> ----end of file----
>>>
>>>
>>> --
>>> Lieven L. Litaer
>>> aka Quvar valer 'utlh
>>> Grammarian of the KLI
>>> http://www.facebook.com/Klingonteacher
>>> http://www.klingonwiki.net
>>> _______________________________________________
>>> tlhIngan-Hol mailing list
>>> tlhIngan-Hol at lists.kli.org
>>> http://lists.kli.org/listinfo.cgi/tlhingan-hol-kli.org
>>>
>>
>>
>
> _______________________________________________
> tlhIngan-Hol mailing list
> tlhIngan-Hol at lists.kli.org
> http://lists.kli.org/listinfo.cgi/tlhingan-hol-kli.org
>
>
-------------- next part --------------
An HTML attachment was scrubbed...
URL: <http://lists.kli.org/pipermail/tlhingan-hol-kli.org/attachments/20170713/2ef247bf/attachment-0016.htm>